What do you think? Most girls when imagining their wedding picture their father walking them down the aisle, grandly "giving them away" to the man of their dreams and all is well. Supposedly signifying that the care, protection, and responsibility of the girl is being transferred from her father, to her husband.
When is it ok though to not have the father walk his daughter down the aisle? I was talking with a lady once who left the planning of her huge fairy tale wedding to go get married by the justice of the peace because her mother was being a monster about the wedding planning. One of the main fits? The lady wasn't going to have her father walk her down the aisle. From the time she was little he had physically abused her and her siblings and now she wasn't about to allow him the privilege of taking that place in her wedding.
I've spoken to other girls who are not planning on having their fathers walk them down the aisle because of a divorce, adulterous relationship, leaving the family, etc....
What's the limit that a father can do before he should no longer have that right to walk his daughter down the aisle?
Would you ever consider it? Would you have someone else walk you down the aisle?
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I don't see what is wrong with having someone else walk her down the aisle. And what is wrong with the mother? Doesn't she know that her daughter was abused?
But, I also don't plan on having my father or stepfather walk me down the aisle. For one, my biological father doesn't deserve to because he's never been part of my life & I really can't stand my stepdad. I might even have my grandpa walk me down the aisle because I've been closer to him than anyone else.
Yeah, it doesn't always have to be a father.
The biological father could have been abusive or just not there.
A father doesn't always have to do that, but someone who was a father figure most of their lives, maybe. Or just walk solo.
I didn't have my father walk me down the aisle because he was deceased. But had my father been one of these dads that had committed adultery or was abusive I would have done the same thing I did in my case.... which was I had my brother whom I was very close to - to give me away.
They have to maintain that right... it shouldn't be assumed they get that privilege when they have abused the relationship as father.
I'm not sure what I would do in a situation like that. My parents are
divorced and thankfully both my biological father and stepfather have
both been great parents to me. I spend time with my biological father
once a week and he was always supportive of whatever I do, but was not
always there to watch me grow. I don't find him at fault at all,
because that's what happens when parents separate. My stepfather has
been there through it all, but at the same time... I don't feel like
I'm truly his daughter like my little sister (which is his). It's
definitely a tough call.